How do we deal with heart ache? Show grace. How do we deal with pain? Grace. How do we deal with backstabbing people? Grace. In all circumstances, we need to show grace. What does that mean? When God shows me Grace, it is favor and love, and decency I do not deserve. I am a criminal; I've broken His standards, I've sinned against Him, and YET He shows me Grace. He loves me anyway. He does not excuse my sin or transgression against Him, but His son bought my pardon, and is advocating for me at the right hand of the Father. So when someone sins against me, I should show nothing less than what the Father has shown me. What gets in the way of showing grace? Pride. Pride is the antithesis of grace. It keeps us focused on ourselves, our wants, wishes and desires, and it keeps us focused on "getting ours." We're not owed anything, and what we owe, we could never pay back. So forgive others, cancel debts others owe you, and walk in Grace. Let it be an attitude that lives in you always. Let Philippians 4 be your compass:
Exhortation, Encouragement, and Prayer
2I entreat Euodia and I entreat Syntyche to agree in the Lord. 3Yes, I ask you also, true companion,b help these women, who have laboredc side by side with me in the gospel together with Clement and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the book of life.
4Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. 5Let your reasonablenessd be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; 6do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9What you have learnede and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
10I rejoiced in the Lord greatly that now at length you have revived your concern for me. You were indeed concerned for me, but you had no opportunity. 11Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. 12I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. 13I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
14Yet it was kind of you to sharef my trouble. 15And you Philippians yourselves know that in the beginning of the gospel, when I left Macedonia, no church entered into partnership with me in giving and receiving, except you only. 16Even in Thessalonica you sent me help for my needs once and again. 17Not that I seek the gift, but I seek the fruit that increases to your credit.g 18I have received full payment, and more. I am well supplied, having received from Epaphroditus the gifts you sent, a fragrant offering, a sacrifice acceptable and pleasing to God. 19And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. 20To our God and Father be glory forever and ever. Amen.
23The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit.
Footnotes: a 1 Or brothers and sisters; also verses 8, 21 b 3 Or loyal Syzygus; Greek true yokefellow c 3 Or strived (see 1:27) d 5 Or gentleness e 9 Or these things--9which things you have also learned f 14 Or have fellowship in g 17 Or I seek the profit that accrues to your account