We live in an age where everyone else loves to tell everyone else what to do. It's not hard to look in to the crowd and see a grove of trees growing out of the eyes of a crowd seeking specks of dust in their neighbor's eye. I think out obsession with informing other people about our opinions on their life choices isn't wholesome, either: there's a difference between trying to speak life and saying "go and sin no more" versus "I don't like how you live your life/your life effects me this way, so here's what I think you should do." Here's the thing, though, I think our opinions and judgements in to other people's lives stem from our own insecurities: we're not living as we ought, and it eases our own guilt by shining light in someone else's darkness.
It's not in our false piety, or in how much we know our neighbor is wrong that can ease our guilty minds. The highest and purest form of love is obedience, and, if it is as we say, and we say we love Jesus, than what we need do, simply and truly is uproot the tree out of our own eyes, and obey Jesus. If you love Jesus and believe in Him, you'll seek to take Him at His word and do what He says. If you love yourself, you'll find a way to continue to rationalize until you've developed a religious world view that justifies yourself and condemns all others. The ultimate proof of your love for Jesus is by how closely you seek to follow His example. None of us is perfect, and we all fail in many ways, but a humble spirit repents and returns to their creator, whereas a prideful one always shifts blame from one's self, and seeks to return to boasting. If you love Jesus, obey Him. everything else is self-love. Matthew 7:1-6 “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
“Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.
1 John 1:5-2:6 This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world. And by this we know that we have come to know him, if we keep his commandments. Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love of God is perfected. By this we may know that we are in him: whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked.