There was a man who received a promise from God before he was born. He was the youngest of a set of twins (the second one out), and it was prophesied over him that he would rule over his brother. Of course, if you're familiar with Scripture, I'm talking about Jacob, the brother of Esau, who, for a bowl of soup, gained his brother's birthright and, dressed in a coat of goat hair (his brother was hairy), stole his brother's blessing from his blind father. Jacob was called by God. Jacob was told that He would rule over his brother, and Jacob, every step of the way, ran ahead of God's plan. With that being said, Jacob had to suffer the consequences of running ahead: Esau wanted to kill him (could you really blame him?), and so Jacob ran to live with his mother's kin. While there, he fell in love, and the cheat was cheated out of several years of his life, forced to take on a second wife, and (on his return to Israel), was made lame at the hip. God still kept his promises to Jacob (He never goes back on his word), but instead of consulting God and doing things His way, Jacob took matters into his own hands. Why is this important? Because Christians live in an age where they think it's okay to do the same, and live without consequences. Because God, who is all about relationships, is also about RIGHT relationships. God understands that when we choose to run ahead, when we choose sex outside the context of his design, cohabitation, fraud, domination over one another, cheating, and all sorts of self-centered designs for our lives, we're setting ourselves (and even those who come after us, as was the case with Jacob) up for heartache. If God has things in store for you, than let Him be the one to decide how it goes. Why? Because, while His pathway requires more patience, the reward is greater and the heartache is less (we still face troubles, part of being in a broken world). God is the designer, Jesus the Author and Finisher of our faith, and the Holy Spirit the counselor: if God is the designer, why should we, then, think to change or modify the plan? If your life feels broken, don't look to yourself, go to the One who manufactured it all; He is more than capable of fixing it! Ephesians 2:1-10 And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body[a] and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us,5 even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.